Single women, never lose hope 

Regardless of any professional or academic achievement, young women from different cultural and social backgrounds worldwide share one almost indispensible dream: that of having families of their own through marriage. Are you a manager in a multinational company or a famous figure in your society who still craves for the feeling of being a wife and a mother? As time goes by, several single women start to lose hope that they might some day get married....

Is it permissible for the husband’s family to show the virginal blood?

 

These beautiful words deserve to be inscribed in golden ink.

With regard to the woman: going to a male, non-mahram hairdresser to have her hair done; or adorning herself in ways that are haraam, such as thinning the eyebrows by plucking them, or wearing tattoos, or wearing hair extensions, or other kinds of haraam things, because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) cursed the one who plucks eyebrows and the one who has that done, the one who adds hair extensions and the one who asks to have that done; imitating the kuffaar in their dress, because usually the wedding dress shows many of the woman's charms and her body, in such a way that the dress is very revealing - we seek refuge with Allaah – and also a great deal of money is wasted on the dress. 

Among the haraam actions that have to do with the man are: shaving his beard for the wedding night, which is done on the grounds that this makes him look more handsome, but this is something which is haraam according to sharee’ah; letting one's clothes hang below the ankle (isbaal). 

The gift of love is the most amazing thing Allah can give to any of His servants, when Allah swt places love into the hearts of two of His servants, and mixes that with His blessings and Rahmah, know then that Allah is with you as long as you maintain that barakah and stick to His pleasure.

Allah swt may gift us with a love so pure, a love so beautiful, love so great that it can be felt over the boundaries of space, yet…if His servants don’t know what to do with that love, it is doomed to go wrong.

If two people love each other, the best thing for them to do is get married…

SubhanAllah, Allah (سبحانه وتعالى) compares the relationship between a husband and wife as clothing. Allah (سبحانه وتعالى) says that both the husband and wife are “libaas”, garments, for each other. This shows the equality that Allah places between spouses and how each partner has a role in the relationship.

There's a very interesting worldwide phenomena taking place among the Muslim youth of today.  Everyone's favourite bit of Sunnah has become the advice of the Prophet (SA'AS) to get married ASAP.  Alhamdulillah, the wisdom of that advice is nothing short of Divine, but the abuse of that advice is causing much trouble in the Ummah today.  That trouble has manifested itself into the most hated of what is Halaal: Talaq (Divorce).  Kids are getting married right, left and centre, lost in some romanticized version of what married life seems to be about, and the second they find themselves stuck in a mud of responsibility, it's time to flip out the cell phone and SMS your significant other:  I divorce you I divorce you I divorce you...Indeed, it is a time of cowards. 

Once there was a very handsome, pious, well educated young man, whose parents emphasised for him to get married. They had seen many marriage proposals, and he had turned them all down. The parents thought it was becoming a little ridiculous or suspected that he may have someone else in mind.

However every time the parents left the girls house, the young man would always say 'she's not the one!'

There she stands, on the shore of the sea, waiting...And to her right, he appears.  He is a vision, a rider on a fiery steed.  Master to his white horse, he is strong, dashing, and yet, his intensity does not eclipse his kindness.  He stops the horse, and descends regally.  He extends his hand and smiles.  She smiles back demurely, takes his hand and allows him to lift her up.  He then sits before her and she feels safe, like she could hold on to him forever.  And he feels like he would protect her with his very life.  He feels like his heart would break if ever she didn't look upon him as she is looking upon him right this instant.  He wants to see her bring his children into the world.  And he would love them only because she is their mother.  And the two ride off, as the sun begins to set on the now serene waters.

"Men are the protectors and maintainers [qawwamun] of women, because Allah has given the one more [strength] than the other, and because they support them from their means..." (Quran 4:34)

Allah SWT has made it simple for the woman.  It is not degrading, but enlightening.
Allah SWT knows the nature of women.  He, ajja wa jal, is our creator.  He knows what we need.  And when we have husbands, good, Allah-fearing husbands, then He, SWT, has given us the formula that will make us happy in this life and happy in the next.

Some of us women work, some of us are in school, some look after their homes and children, and some of us subscribe to all of these roles.  But the most important role, the one we should give top priority to, is the role of outstanding wife.

The young and excited bride-and-groom-to-be, ecstatic about the upcoming wedding and marriage, and the joy that it will bring. Three to six months later, reality sets in, and both spouses realize that marriage is no easy task, but one that takes a great deal of effort and patience.

We always hear of women having to obey their husbands with regards to his sexual desires. and how women are obliged to obey him when he wishes to have intercourse with her. and she isnt allowed to fast voluntarily etc without the permission of her husband due to him maybe having desires and being unable to fulfill them if she is fasting, and so on. I have no doubt in my mind about any of the matters ive mentioned, whatsoever, or aboout any matters in Islam, insha Allah never will. However, i simply must ask, why is it our scholars fail to mention the desires of the women? What about a womans right, and how a woman feels with regards to sexual desires. What about her husband refusing her intercourse. What about all of the matters involved with this issue...

Ibn Khaldoon writes in his Muqaddimah about this issue, "Children are influenced most by a role model. In their early years, children think that everything that adults do is correct and good. And that their parents are the best amongst the adults and the most perfect."

Children do not learn by being told, they learn by example. How much weight does a commandment to a child have to fast when the parent or teacher himself is eating a sandwich? For this reason, it is something hated and despised by Allah that a person should command good and he himself do other than what he commands. For indeed, his words will have little worth when the two – his actions and commandments - are contradictory.